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Old 03-25-2010, 10:37 AM
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I realise I asked for some support no so long ago, but I really hope you're willing to give me some more.

I'm so lonely.

I just need someone to hold me, to love me so that I can love them back. I have never had a relationship and I really want one, a true one. Not for the superficial things. Not so I can boast about what my partner has that yours doesn't as many people do these days, but so that I can love someone.

I need someone who accepts me for who I am, someone who Sees me and I do in return. I don't understand why people keep away from me so much. I'm a kind, gentle and loving soul, willing to give so much, yet no one seems interested in me in the slightest.

Maybe these are impossible needs to fulfill in today's society, I just don't know.

I just feel utterly rejected at the moment...

Edit: I don't feel up to the task of posting at the moment, I will have to check back later.





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Old 03-25-2010, 11:01 AM
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really quiet boy soon find your soul mate to me right now happens to me almost two years as I have no partner. I can not find anyone who can appreciate me as I am or maybe I'm so obsessed with me locate someone who wants to direct my conscience rejects but I encourage you to keep on looking for that person because sooner or later come
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Old 03-25-2010, 12:51 PM
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You know.... I've been feeling lonely too, except its mostly about the unique romance you get from every individual girl. A hot but really unknown feeling of slapping eachother lightly with smirks on our faces to snugging in the park in the early hours of the day before sunset, I miss those ladies :\. It's always different and yet it is such a fragile thing. It is truly a euphoric feeling but it can just slip away if you say one word that's out of place! I feel lonely in the aspect that I can't have someone who understands me, which I'm sure you can relate. Perhaps I'm looking in the wrong areas to find her but... where can I possibly look for a masculine-like girl in mind but with the innocence of a child? A woman with an independence factor is something... I can't get over; I felt this way for a long time before I even saw Avatar, judging a woman like this, and I always thought the foreigners in my country might be the persons I were looking for. I believe very dignified Russian and German women might fit this category (maybe even some Swedish women), although I'm still searching. I kind of narrowed the search down, thanks to these remarkably sweet women:

Brittany Daniel
She is so sweet, I hear her personality is excellent to. I know she is a sucker with a credit card though, so keep your money in a vault.

Brooke Burns
I haven't seen any of her television shows, but I hear she does a Soap Opera (like Young and the Restless) so that might not be a good thing to look for in a woman. But just look at that face..... it's just saying "hi!!" at you! Drama is not my thing, not by a long shot!! lol!!

You know, you can have as many women as you want but there is nothing that can substitute true companionship. Here is my advice to whoever is looking for their other someone, find a friend. William Shattner said this in one of his shows that says why.


*Not exactly his words, but combing a different bunch of statements and messages said by Will do more than fit bill*


~Allan, woman are mysterious. They can't seem to get enough Denny Crane!! I'm not exactly a one woman man but Id love to calm down with someone. Every woman I ever met tried to screw me over, except for Shurley... Look Alan, if anyone in this world wants to find a true relationship, you need your best friend. He's better than a wife! You can smoke together, drink together, laugh together. Once a woman finds you out, she exploits you for every weakness you have and pretty soon, she'll run you out of the house. A friend just screws with you and in the end, you and I will both laugh.

A friend of mine who is good with women told me that they only want attention onto themselves, and knowing that fact alone can get you hooked up with someone. He didn't elaborate on how to lung deeper into a person, but I got a wild feeling inside that his guess is as good as mine on the matter. I'll probably add something after I ask him this question, but it's an important one so I'm sure he'll give me a straight answer. I don't mean to disrespect woman here because of my observations, these are simply differences between our sexes (one of many lol). Just a guy talking to a guy here that might help him relieve his emotions.

Bro, hang in there, and never ever give up. If you quit, the harsh nature of life wins. Never let it happen!

And ladies, you never should put your sights on a man like this either. It does not do well to dwell on dreams. But have it in your hopes though, I don't know how much of this statement is true but if you improve yourself to help yourself, your basically making yourself more attractive. Doing it for the sake of yourself should really help your self esteem, and your getting rewarded from it in a way. If you improve yourself to a certain extent, you may even find your dream man. There is always hope and chance, the stuff opportunity is made out of, what life is rich in.

Now if you excuse me, I need to dive my head in some hot water. I got a bad case of insomnia that just won't quit.
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really quiet boy soon find your soul mate to me right now happens to me almost two years as I have no partner. I can not find anyone who can appreciate me as I am or maybe I'm so obsessed with me locate someone who wants to direct my conscience rejects but I encourage you to keep on looking for that person because sooner or later come
lol your sig so wants me to get to pandora .. INSTANTLY , the purple and blueish colours make my mind go crazy lol (in a good way )
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Oel ngati kameie

Neytiri made me realise just how lonely I am. I've had one relationship before but it really wasn't good, didn't last long. Wasn't in any way meaningful, at the time I hadn't even thought about who I really wanted to be with. I'm just not at all interested in another like it. I need to find the right person for me, she needs to See.

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People are interested in you, they just fear the reaction you will give them if they ask an unusual question, like, "Will you go out with me?"

I know this is easier said than done, but, if you'd really like to find somebody to love and for them to love you back, your best option is to ask those you love on a date of some kind. Perhaps just a quick walk through the park, or a cup of coffee. Anything which will bring you closer. Seeing a movie like Avatar together is a great option as well.

As James Cameron says, nothing is worse than fear itself.
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I wish I knew ANYONE like that... I really don't. All my female friends are either in a relationship, and the fact that I wouldn't really be interested anyway. They're fine as friends, but not anyone who could ever See
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Old 03-25-2010, 02:59 PM
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Thanks everyone, it has helped me out immensely. I unfortunately am in the same situation as HNM, all my female friends are either in a relationship or not what i'm seeking.

I suppose the only option is to actually get out of the house and meet people...
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@HNM, Fkeu'itan: I'm in the same situation as you, guys. I had two relationships in the past, the first one was good but it broke up for a really stupid reason (my girlfriend and I were quite far from each other) and the second one didn't last for long since she couldn't See me at all.

I'm desperately looking for my Neytiri, but I can say that this forum and all people here have seriously relieved a bit my need of being understood. This is a true blessing for me, and I don't know how my life could be without all of you.

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Old 03-25-2010, 04:02 PM
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@HNM, Fkeu'itan: I'm in the same situation as you, guys. I had two relationships in the past, the first one was good but it broke up for a really stupid reason (my girlfriend and I were quite far from each other) and the second one didn't last for long since she couldn't See me at all.

I'm desperately looking for my Neytiri, but I can say that this forum and all people here have seriously relieved a bit my need of being understood. This is a true blessing for me, and I don't know how my life could be without all of you.

Oel ayngati kameie!
That really sucks Tudhaylas, i'm sorry to hear that. I too am still searching, but unfortunately, it might be for quite a while.

I feel exactly the same way about this community;

Earlier I felt like crap, like life wasn't really worth living, but as usual everyone here helped lift me out of the hole. I can honestly say from my heart and soul that you truly are some of the only people to See me. I still feel a little bit down, but thanks everyone. I don't know what i'd do without you guys.

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I realise I asked for some support no so long ago, but I really hope you're willing to give me some more.

I'm so lonely.

I just need someone to hold me, to love me so that I can love them back. I have never had a relationship and I really want one, a true one. Not for the superficial things. Not so I can boast about what my partner has that yours doesn't as many people do these days, but so that I can love someone.

I need someone who accepts me for who I am, someone who Sees me and I do in return. I don't understand why people keep away from me so much. I'm a kind, gentle and loving soul, willing to give so much, yet no one seems interested in me in the slightest.

Maybe these are impossible needs to fulfill in today's society, I just don't know.

I just feel utterly rejected at the moment...
Fkeu'itan, I got misty-eyed reading this . I know exactly how you feel. For years, I felt the same way. I had friends who were guys. In fact, I have a very good friend who is a guy but no one who could truly be my soulmate. For years I didn't understand why anyone would take an interest in me. I have bad self-confidence issues, especially concerning my physical appearance. I usually received abuse from guys. Especially when I was in HS. In my 20's, I did have two relationships but they were short lived and didn't go anywhere. I had just about given up on finding my soulmate until I decided to go on a dating website. The first one I was on was a bad experience.

After two years of no contacts, I was wondering what I could do to improve the situation so I made the mistake of asking one of the people who runs the site. After he saw my picture, he said it could be because my men won't go for a woman who is big . That hurt deeply and I cried for a while.

A couple of months later, I decided to give another dating website a try. I was also the one who contacted men instead of the other way around but my e-mails to them were terrible . I didn't know how to introduce myself and I came off like I didn't really want anyone to talk to. However, one day, I saw one of the fellas I had contacted online so I invited him to chat. The rest is history. We have been married now for a year and about 5 months.

It took my husband many years to find me. He almost gave up (he was 38 at the time that we met). He is 40 now.

Judging from your posts here on TOS and at AF, you are a kind soul . I know the pain of not having someone to love. Someone who sees you. Don't give up though. You might have to find her where you least expect to.
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Oel ngati kameie ma tsmukan, I completely understand you. I've never had a girlfriend either, I'm 19, and the one I almost had, lets just say we both liked each other but she went to college in another state and ended up getting a boyfriend there. That made me feel wonderful [/sarcasm]. And like you said, I just want someone to say that they love me, and truly mean it. I fear that when I get a relationship she'll just be there because she feels if she leaves me she'll feel bad, but she doens't feel the same way about me that I do her. It's hard to look at todays world and have the hope that you'll find true love, all it is at my college is "friends with benifits" they don't truly love them, they just want to say they've had sex with such a number of the hottest girls. And it's also hard to approach a girl and have them know that you're not one of those other guys. How do you go about that? It's a hard subject, especially for someone who hasn't had a girlfriend, sometimes I fear I think too much about it, what love truly is and such, and thats my problem about not having someone special in my life. I dream of having someone embracing me because of who I am, for her to truly say to me that she loves me and my soul has the connection that she truly means it. I'm alone with you as well ma tsmukan, but don't give up. You and I and everyone else here who hasn't been in a relationship will get through these lonely times. But like I just said it is hard. I walk down the street at a mall (its an outdoor mall with tons of stores) filled with tons of people, and I hardly see girls about my age, and when I do see them, they're walking hand in hand with another guy. And the girls that are walking with their girlfriends or alone, I look at their eyes, see if they have any interest, but sometimes I look and they have zero signs. It's moments like those that I go and sit down someplace and think. Is it something I'm doing wrong? Is it the way I look? Act? Dress? Is it the who I am? Looking at couples like those at the malls or like my cousin and her boyfriend, I see how happy they both are to be with each other, and I wish that I had someone I could make that happy, and someone who could make me that happy. Someday I will, but I just would like to know when. I feel like I've waited so long, but I know there are other guys who have waited longer, and I feel sorry for them as well. Hang in there ma tmukan, and to all those who are in the same situation in life as we are as well. We're always here to support each other, and I hope this gave you some more support.
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Fkeu'itan, I got misty-eyed reading this . I know exactly how you feel. For years, I felt the same way. I had friends who were guys. In fact, I have a very good friend who is a guy but no one who could truly be my soulmate. For years I didn't understand why anyone would take an interest in me. I have bad self-confidence issues, especially concerning my physical appearance. I usually received abuse from guys. Especially when I was in HS. In my 20's, I did have two relationships but they were short lived and didn't go anywhere. I had just about given up on finding my soulmate until I decided to go on a dating website. The first one I was on was a bad experience.

After two years of no contacts, I was wondering what I could do to improve the situation so I made the mistake of asking one of the people who runs the site. After he saw my picture, he said it could be because my men won't go for a woman who is big . That hurt deeply and I cried for a while.

A couple of months later, I decided to give another dating website a try. I was also the one who contacted men instead of the other way around but my e-mails to them were terrible . I didn't know how to introduce myself and I came off like I didn't really want anyone to talk to. However, one day, I saw one of the fellas I had contacted online so I invited him to chat. The rest is history. We have been married now for a year and about 5 months.

It took my husband many years to find me. He almost gave up (he was 38 at the time that we met). He is 40 now.

Judging from your posts here on TOS and at AF, you are a kind soul . I know the pain of not having someone to love. Someone who sees you. Don't give up though. You might have to find her where you least expect to.
Thank you very much for an inspiring post rapunzel, it - like all the other posts here - have helped me in ways you cannot possibly concieve.

I too have some issues with self-asteem and my physical apperance and I probably have a bit of a fear of rejection as well.

I will continue to search for my soulmate, for as long as it takes.
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And like you said, I just want someone to say that they love me, and truly mean it. I fear that when I get a relationship she'll just be there because she feels if she leaves me she'll feel bad, but she doens't feel the same way about me that I do her.
That would be the worst sort of relationship. Never settle for "pity." Personally, I don't see anything to pity with you . You are a very kind man with a good heart. It is very understandable that you would have that fear though. Some women tend to do that.

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It's hard to look at todays world and have the hope that you'll find true love, all it is at my college is "friends with benifits" they don't truly love them, they just want to say they've had sex with such a number of the hottest girls.
, this is truly sad but also very common too. It doesn't have to be this way.

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And it's also hard to approach a girl and have them know that you're not one of those other guys. How do you go about that? It's a hard subject, especially for someone who hasn't had a girlfriend, sometimes I fear I think too much about it, what love truly is and such, and thats my problem about not having someone special in my life.
Never give up trying but don't dwell on it to much either. I know that is difficult to say since I have been there before, being very lonely, etc. If the girl doesn't respect you for your principles, etc then she isn't worth it. The right one will come .

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I dream of having someone embracing me because of who I am, for her to truly say to me that she loves me and my soul has the connection that she truly means it.

This is a very good dream. Never lose that dream.

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But like I just said it is hard. I walk down the street at a mall (its an outdoor mall with tons of stores) filled with tons of people, and I hardly see girls about my age, and when I do see them, they're walking hand in hand with another guy. And the girls that are walking with their girlfriends or alone, I look at their eyes, see if they have any interest, but sometimes I look and they have zero signs.
I used to do the same thing. When I worked at the mall, I saw couples walking hand and hand and it hurt me so much because I wanted to find my soulmate too and I thought that he would never come.


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It's moments like those that I go and sit down someplace and think. Is it something I'm doing wrong? Is it the way I look? Act? Dress? Is it the who I am? Looking at couples like those at the malls or like my cousin and her boyfriend, I see how happy they both are to be with each other, and I wish that I had someone I could make that happy, and someone who could make me that happy.
There is nothing wrong with you . Always be yourself. She will love you for who you are inside and outside.

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Someday I will, but I just would like to know when. I feel like I've waited so long, but I know there are other guys who have waited longer, and I feel sorry for them as well. Hang in there ma tmukan, and to all those who are in the same situation in life as we are as well. We're always here to support each other, and I hope this gave you some more support.
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I wondered for years too. Hang in there . You will find her. You are 19. There are plenty of years ahead to find her. Do the best that you can now. All of you (Fkeu'itan, Human no More, Profoundheart, Stanley_9875, Fkeua Vrrtep, Apollo, etc) are a kind bunch of fellas. For those of you who don't have anyone yet, she is out there. You might have to search the world over to find her, but she is out there.

I hope this has helped too.
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Thank you very much for an inspiring post rapunzel, it - like all the other posts here - have helped me in ways you cannot possibly concieve.

I too have some issues with self-asteem and my physical apperance and I probably have a bit of a fear of rejection as well.

I will continue to search for my soulmate, for as long as it takes.
You're welcome Fkeu'itan . I'm glad that I was able to help.
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