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Old 03-26-2010, 06:54 PM
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Who is going to hate you and/or make fun of you for what you do, what you love, or who you are. Always. I was thinking about Avatar and how there are so many haters, and I think to every movie I've seen and I've always seen at least one bad review. Then I thought about my life, and thought about all the people who make fun of me and hated me for what I've loved, loved to do, and who I am. I used to be the quiet, out of the way kind of kid, elementary through junior high. I would be in the corner not saying a word, just keeping to myself so I wouldn't cause any problems for anyone. Then people made fun of me, called me names like "freak" and "loner" and such. Then going into 8th grade, I was into the whole rap/hip-hop scene, and I was made fun of for that, people saying how it has no beat, no point. It's just full of a bunch of wanna-be's and such (now look whats popular when I left haha), then in high school I was the Bro guy. Not as much into the lifted trucks, but the style of clothing, the music (Kottonmouth Kings, Kingspade, Judge D, ect) and I was made fun of and hated for that. Now for about 2-3 years I'm into the rave scene, the techno/trance/electronic/rave music, being a DJ of the amazing genre, addicted and entranced by the flashing strobes, moving lasers, and other lighting effects (rave gloves!!!) and the beat of the music I can feel in my bloodstream. I'm not leaving this scene, and I get made fun of it all the time, my friends saying that when I give light shows its a "light lap dance" and when I practice my finger movements I'm a "sex massagist" (thanks buddy for the support I'm getting sick of it) and I told my friend off the other day because I was getting sick of him making fun of me for it. Also saying to my face at parties that my music sucks (I said it was a rave party, why did you come expecting rap?) isn't fun to listen to. Back then, I was into the rap and bro scenes because thats what I was around, and seeing other people do it I thought it would be cool, but now I'm in it because its what I enjoy, its what I love. Also my love for cars, I love the import and muscle scenes, but I still get made fun of even though I like both (mostly for imports). Same with Avatar. I love Avatar so so so SOOOOOO much, and I get made fun of for it a lot.

Taking a step back and looking at these things from afar, I watch my attitude now towards others. I try (its hard) not to judge others, I may not agree with what everyone is doing, but hey if you enjoy it, thats totally cool with me... its your life. There are subjects that I do think are wrong (premarital sex, abortion, Justin Bieber, ect) but little things like hobbies, loves, ect. Like I used to be the Twilight Nazi (haha wasn't called that but could be described like that) I would bash on anything and everything Twilight, but after seeing how people treat me for Avatar, I think back to the people I've made fun of for loving Twilight, and I felt really guilty. Now they give me odd looks when they mention Twilight and I don't say a word of hate. I don't love it, but if it was me in their shoes, I wouldn't want to be made fun of the way I made fun of them.

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Old 03-26-2010, 07:17 PM
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Stanley: Thank you for sharing this. What you describe in middle school and high school was me at that age. I tried to be like everyone else when I was 13-14 (I think everyone goes through that stage) but I was still mercilessly teased. Not for what I liked but for what I looked like. It was hell. Then I moved away in the 8th grade and had to endure more abuse.

I had an awakening of sorts when I visited the UK, specifically Canterbury. I fell in love with history. With the past. From that point on, I went into a "fortress" of sorts, devouring books. When I got back home (I lived in Germany at the time), I started to read Geoffrey Chaucer's Canterbury Tales. Then I moved on to Shakespeare and Dickens. I loved the classics but I did not dare actually tell anyone about it. I didn't have any friends at all. I was always quiet, doing my homework, and having my nose in a book. In addition, I read books on Medieval and 16th C English history. I loved them and I continued to read.

I also started to get involved in Classic Rock, Folk Music, classical, and grunge (this was during the heyday of Nirvana, Pearl Jam, etc). Most of the students were into hip hop, etc. So, even on that level, I couldn't relate either .

I learned through those years that the only thing you can be is yourself. The downside was that I had NO ONE to talk to about any of the stuff I was interested in except for my english teacher (which isn't saying much, I know). I felt older than the rest which was why I had trouble relating to my peers. I was still teased, etc but I learned to deal with it.

Don't bother with the haters. They aren't worth it. Be yourself . Thats all you can do. People will tease and abuse you not only for your hobbies and interests but also for your most deeply held beliefs. When you learn how to deal with the little things, you will be able to deal with the bigger things . I hope that made sense.
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Old 03-26-2010, 07:24 PM
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I feel you man, I love how you threw justin bieber in there! ROTFL!!! Though I when I was a kid I was the clown, always jackin around in class, talking alot, and getting sent to the principle haha!

That said, I know what you mean about people, I get made of for cars, Im a big import supporter and always listen to crap from my friends in the muscle crowd even though I like the muscle cars too. Most crap I get aside from music also, is the detailing I am into. I do a small business on the side and always hear so much BS from one of my friends. "You waste to much money on stuff, why do you care, you spend way to much time on your car" and it goes on and on.

Like you said especially having been in such a diverse college I try to not judge anyone. Movies like Avatar have brought us all together and to be honest, some of my great friends on here I probably would have never met if it wasnt for this movie bringing us together. I try and let negative things my friends say just roll off my back but its hard sometimes.
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Old 03-26-2010, 07:30 PM
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Old 03-26-2010, 07:34 PM
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This is a fairly common theme here I am sure. I was at least as isolated as the posters above me. I got a ton of mean spirited teasing. I usually didn't do much about it, but on occasion I would put those people in their place with carefully target hurtful words. I was also a big kid and could intimidate almost anyone given the proper motivation even though that was not my normal character.

I grew up in Palo Alto California, the home of Stanford University, so I did have access to considerable intellectually oriented adults and younger people. Not sure if I would have made it somewhere else. Even so I was pretty much a loner. It all changed for me when I got a "real" programming job at 15. I started moving away from high school and began to mainly deal with adults. I totally gave up on the haters in school. I had no time for them or their petty thoughts. Why waste precious time.
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Old 03-26-2010, 07:43 PM
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See it was weird for me I didnt get more on the quiet side until I was older, if a kid made fun of me when I was younger like in elementary school id want to duke it out with him on the playground during recess ROTFL! Now I know much better haha, sure had a good relationship with the principle though
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Old 03-27-2010, 12:16 AM
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There will always be idiots. Just be yourself, even if people don't like it, they're probably wishing they could be themselves too. I learned that years ago, not easy being the only metalhead in a town full of emos, chavs and people into fail 'metal' that really isn't...
I guess I'm lucky in that way now, I have friends who at least understand that, even if they are ayskxawng about other things, like Avatar
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