..Too late?
 

Hey guys..

I think I've met the love of my life 2 months ago, been seeing each other regularely, a couple of time every week since then and when I spent time with her I feel like I'm in elysium, no day goes by that I don't think of her but I just don't have the nerves to say it, I can see it in her eyes that shes the one, I know that sounds cheesy but that's how it is, it feels like I can feel her soul,and I think she can too the way she looks into my eyes when we talk. But I fear she's seeing a friend of mine and that I'm too late, though I'm not a 100% sure on that..he doesn't know how bad I'm in love with this person and it just feels like I've possibly failed the chance of my life, what can I do ? I can't just ask straight away but I don't want to know either, I think it's killing me.. :(

You should at least let her know you enjoy her company. That's pretty much the universal language for "I like you." Chances are if you've been hanging out often she has more than likely already picked up on the fact that you like her. Women always know. Men are easy to read.

The fear of telling someone how you feel is nothing compared to the regret of never telling them and finding out that they liked you and were waiting for you to make a move, but you never did. The worst that can happen is that she simply isn't interested. Sure it might sting a little, but it isn't the end of the world. Remember, women get just as nervous as men. She might like you, but have the same fears as you.

Theres really no good reason not to tell someone how you feel and fear is no excuse.

I agree with Eternal Enigma. If you feel this strongly about the lady then it's not really something you can avoid acting on without massively regretting it later. You have to do something, even if it means getting "shot down".

And whatever happens, lucky you to have met somebody you feel so much for. Not everybody does :)

Ive messaged her that I need to talk with her, I have the feeling somehow that she knows , my heart is jumping.. maybe Ill see her today.

Best of luck to you my friend. It's moments like these that define our lives.

Not that I'd know, but I read about it.

I think I messed it up.. she asked what I wanted to talk about with her through text and I couldnt hold it, now shes not responding since yesterday, this was probably the most stupid thing I could have done, I should have told her facr to face..

There's no such thing as messing up by telling someone how you feel. Face to face is always the best policy with this sort of thing, but her lack of a response doesn't necessarily mean anything bad. Sure, it could mean that she isn't interested. Then again she may like you and not know what to say.

I've had the girl I secretly liked approach me and I was so caught off guard by it that I basically backed out because I was scared I would mess it up so I didn't even try, but it didn't mean I wasn't interested in her. She may have felt rejected, but I didn't reject her. I should have tried. This is some of that regret I was telling you about. I have regrets and missed opportunities.

I'd let some time go by and try again. That's all you can really do.

Thanks for your answers, but I'm desperate, I know without the doubt that she is my soulmate and I'm afraid I will lose this opportunity, I don't think I'll ever be able to love a person like I love her, I need her in my life and it hurts so much to not know, I can't sleep, can't eat, I need her to answer or it's going to eat me up whole..

Any updates to your situation?

Be careful.

Oxytocin is a powerful drug...

She hasn't answered me in 5 days. At least I found out she's not going out with a friend of mine with I thought they did.

What did you say?


Great news! :)

let me tell you how much it cost me to write this. I'm not someone who has the courage to write or say what I did just like that at all, infact I've never told this anyone. Believe me when I say I ment every word of it and I'll repeat it word for word in front of you if you give me a chance to. What I'm asking of you is to have the same courage to tell me how you feel like I did. I haven't known you for very long,I don't care how this sounds but whenever I see you, you brighten up my day and that's how I feel.

I don't know whether you are seeing someone else or maybe you have a hurtful past that makes you hesitate, I don't have any clue what you've been through,or how your life has been up to this point, I just see you for who you are and I honestly believe that you have a good soul inside of you.

I'm not asking promises of you, neither am I demanding, all I'm asking is your honesty and I truely believe that I saw it in your eyes and heard it in your voice with every word you said ever since I've known you.. maybe this is too much, I can't tell, there's no rules for this, nothing to go by,no guidance so I'll just have to trust to what I feel and know and that's what you can read in these lines, I've spoken my mind, nothing left to say that I haven't already said, if you can't or don't want to I can't and won't blame you for it.
However this goes, I believe these are the moments that define our very lives, I want you to be a part of mine,maybe saying this will cost me your friendship, but I guess that's a gamble I'll have to call and a risk I have to take, I don't want to regret this.


This is what I wrote her, word for word.

I wish you the best of luck ma 'eylan.

I think it looks like this is going no where,no reply, nothing, might just aswell have to leave her alone.. she could at least have given me an answer.