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Marvellous Chester 08-14-2015 03:24 PM

I know it is not my place but it shows her in a poor light that she has not got back in touch with you :/ Perhaps there is your answer. Is it likely you will see her again as some point?

fkeua vrrtep 08-14-2015 03:42 PM

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Originally Posted by The Silver Stag (Post 184639)
I know it is not my place but it shows her in a poor light that she has not got back in touch with you :/ Perhaps there is your answer. Is it likely you will see her again as some point?

Probably, we have quite some friends in common, and place we go, but I don't think I should talk to her if I do meet her.. or should I? I mean not saying anything does say it all I guess..

Disco Scratch 08-14-2015 04:21 PM

I don't see too much wrong with what you wrote other than the fact that it's a bit lengthy. She may not be responding because she might not know what to say. Women always know when a man likes them, but you actually saying something may have caught her off guard. So I don't believe all is lost. There's always a chance. Think positively!

Sometimes persistence pays off, but you don't want to come on too strong (e.g. sending messages everyday or proclaiming a love that couldn't possibly be). You don't want to become the "creepy stalker guy." That's worse than being in the friend zone. Let some time pass and try again. Next time time with fewer words. Keep it simple. Like; "Mind if I buy you lunch and maybe we can talk?" When she asks you what you want to talk about don't tell her what it's really about. You want to tell them how you feel, but you've got to ease into it. You might take her to lunch a few times before saying anything. The conversation could just be basic interests.

I'd say try again sometime in a few weeks. If you feel that it's really messed up then try again sometime next month. You need to seem busy even if you aren't and if you're sitting there firing off a couple of messages everyday it makes you look needy, desperate, obsessed, and like you have no life. Women run from guys like that because that's what "creepy stalker guys" do.

I apologize, I should have been more clear in my earlier responses.

fkeua vrrtep 08-14-2015 04:42 PM

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Originally Posted by Eternal Enigma (Post 184644)
I don't see too much wrong with what you wrote other than the fact that it's a bit lengthy. She may not be responding because she might not know what to say. Women always know when a man likes them, but you actually saying something may have caught her off guard. So I don't believe all is lost. There's always a chance. Think positively!

Sometimes persistence pays off, but you don't want to come on too strong (e.g. sending messages everyday or proclaiming a love that couldn't possibly be). You don't want to become the "creepy stalker guy." That's worse than being in the friend zone. Let some time pass and try again. Next time time with fewer words. Keep it simple. Like; "Mind if I buy you lunch and maybe we can talk?" When she asks you what you want to talk about don't tell her what it's really about. You want to tell them how you feel, but you've got to ease into it. You might take her to lunch a few times before saying anything. The conversation could just be basic interests.

I'd say try again sometime in a few weeks. If you feel that it's really messed up then try again sometime next month. You need to seem busy even if you aren't and if you're sitting there firing off a couple of messages everyday it makes you look needy, desperate, obsessed, and like you have no life. Women run from guys like that because that's what "creepy stalker guys" do.

I apologize, I should have been more clear in my earlier responses.

Thanks for your answer, I really tried not to write anything that could come across as stalky or anything, but I couldn't keep it short either. I might see her downtown tonight, but I don't know what I should say, maybe she'll just walk off when we see each other and passively tell me to leave it alone.

Either way, I'll let some time pass, maybe she'll come out of her shell and let me know, if I'm lucky.

Disco Scratch 08-14-2015 06:41 PM

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Originally Posted by fkeua vrrtep (Post 184646)
Thanks for your answer, I really tried not to write anything that could come across as stalky or anything, but I couldn't keep it short either. I might see her downtown tonight, but I don't know what I should say, maybe she'll just walk off when we see each other and passively tell me to leave it alone.

Either way, I'll let some time pass, maybe she'll come out of her shell and let me know, if I'm lucky.

Good luck!

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