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Originally Posted by Aquaplant
I'm a very stubborn person, but I don't know if that could be considered as a positive or negative, because it all depends of the things I choose to pursue.
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Stubbornness is neither positive nor negative, it's what you do with it that counts. Someone can be stubborn in refusing to give up on a friend, or stubborn in refusing to accept help. And so on. Ultimately it is better to be stubborn than not, because at least that energy is available, whereas if the problem is apathy then the energy has to be found before it can be directed.
Where we direct our energy is a matter of habit, and habits can be changed; sometimes this is easy, often it is hard, but every habit (of the kind we're talking about, anyway; I'm excluding things like reflex actions and hereditary instincts) was acquired and can be reversed. I find that the main factor in how easy it is for people to change their habits is the conversation they have with themselves about how easy it will be. Good book:
What to Say When You Talk to Yourself.