Searching for lifemate? Or already have them?

[Autumnshire]

Originally Posted by omaticaya

Hey, that's nice, another relationship thread and I doesn't surprise me that is was started by you, Shire
Since relationships and the idea of love and mating for life are among the most interesting things to talk about, it's good to have a new thread about it.

I'm 29 and single since January (after a three-year-relatinship). For the moment I like being for myself but nevertheless I constantly think of finding my lifemate one day.

I think it's very difficult to meet someone who SEES like you do IRL, but since I have met so many nice people on AF and here, I know that there may be more people like that then I used to believe. The problem is the great distance between all of us. The planet is just to big
A meetup IRL, like Shire dreamed of would be aweesome, I dream of that too.

Another thought that I posted this earlier in another thread was that relationships, even if they don't turn out well, are always a very important experience for yourself. You learn a lot about yourself and you learn a lot about having a relationship. I think one should not think that with the right person a relationship will run perfectly without any effort. A relationship is always made up of compromises, even with the lifemate or soulmate. So, it's good to be prepared when one day you meet this person.

Sorry, if that sounds a bit pessimist, but that's what I, sometimes painfully, had to learn the last years. I once met somebody and I was convinced that she was my soulmate, but that's another story ...

Tehe 'doesn't surprise me that is was started by you, Shire' - I'm that predictable?
Ugh I so agree. The world *is* too big. I also thought I'd met someone who I would stay with forever - not quite my soulmate, but just thought that's who I'd end up with. Was wrong, though, and now I'm discovering that getting out was really was the right move. I'm not sad any more. Avatar helped me realise there are other more similar-minded people out there.
And yes, there are always going to be struggles and things to work through. But with the right person... it will be achievable, and it will still be good. That's my belief, anyway.

And yes, whether a relationship works or not, it teaches you something. As does being alone. But relationships have certainly taught me a lot. Mainly how I *don't* want my life to be, lol.

Originally Posted by omaticaya

BTW, it would be interesting to know if there has been any relationships of ppl who met on AF or ToS. What do you think?

That would be interesting. I could see it happening. Quite frankly I'd rather spend my time with people on here so yeah ^^ Sigh, as you said, the world is much too big