Searching for lifemate? Or already have them?

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Originally Posted by Autumnshire

Tehe 'doesn't surprise me that is was started by you, Shire' - I'm that predictable?

Yes you are. You predictably started a thead that goes straight to the heart. It's a kind of predictability that I like. Keep being predictable in this fashion.

Originally Posted by Autumnshire

I was just wondering what other people's situations are here at the moment ^^ Are you... a content individual? Happily - whatever? Or... waiting? Something like that?

Three weeks away from my eighth anniversary. Unless something unusual happens I'm pretty sure I fall into the mated for life category. My road to this place had a lot of unforeseen turns and more than a few speed bumps.

Originally Posted by zongtseng

I posted about this somewhere else on ToS a while ago, but I'll repeat it here. I am 35 years old, and have found no one. And I am content with that, as content as is possible to be. Many years ago, I went through a very dark period where I was just depressed out of my mind over not being able to find anyone meaningful. The way I recovered from that was to put myself at peace with the fact that it *might* not ever happen.

I no longer actively look. I believe at this point that if I am meant to have someone, it will happen in some way I am not expecting or looking for. I would love nothing more than to have it happen, but it is much easier to go through life at peace with being alone. I spend months every year out in nature, in a lot of very remote and beautiful places. Sharing them with someone would be great, but there is something to be said for solitude as well.

I went through those dark times as well before I got married when I was 39. Spending months per year away like you like to do will kind of require a lifemate who will travel with you. Can't really leave them at home for that long. I spend at least a month away in remote places, but as I'm in California they are not all that far from home. It also helps that I tend to do it in chunks under 4 or so days at a time. In fact she has little desire to come along on most of my adventures as my idea of camping amenities is a shovel and a roll of toilet paper.

I humbly suggest that you look a bit harder. In my experience once a bachelor hits 40 it's pretty much game over. It's worth it. Really.