Lonliness.

[Fkeu'itan]

Again stanley, thank you for your amazing support.

We have a similar situation in this country. It seems that relationships these days are all about "getting a leg over" which, in my personal opinion is just disgusting. It's great for anyone who shares this mentality, as there are countless numbers of both sexes who think exactly the same way which means easy relationships, (and when I say "relationships" in this contex, I actually mean sex.) But as you can probably tell, i'm not like that. You shold be with a person because you love them, because you share a connection, not primarily for the "action".

I also agree with your second point. It kills me too to see other people in the street, hell, even my own friends when they're with their partner and enjoying themselves. It's not envy or jealousy, it's just a longing. I don't know what it is that drives other people away either, it's a complete mystery to me. Admittedly, i'm not the thinnest, most muscular or best dressed of guys but maybe that's what many women (in my area at least) aim for these days. I just don't know.

Well, i'm not going to give up searching just yet and thanks for all the support, I don't know where i'd be without you guys.

[Tudhalyas]

Originally Posted by rapunzel77

Hang in there . You will find her. You are 19. There are plenty of years ahead to find her. Do the best that you can now. All of you (Fkeu'itan, Human no More, Profoundheart, Stanley_9875, Fkeua Vrrtep, Apollo, etc) are a kind bunch of fellas. For those of you who don't have anyone yet, she is out there. You might have to search the world over to find her, but she is out there.

I hope this has helped too.

Thank you for your kind words, ma tsmuké. We have to keep up our faith.

[Tudhalyas]

Originally Posted by Fkeu'itan

Again stanley, thank you for your amazing support.

We have a similar situation in this country. It seems that relationships these days are all about "getting a leg over" which, in my personal opinion is just disgusting. It's great for anyone who shares this mentality, as there are countless numbers of both sexes who think exactly the same way which means easy relationships, (and when I say "relationships" in this contex, I actually mean sex.) But as you can probably tell, i'm not like that. You shold be with a person because you love them, because you share a connection, not primarily for the "action".

THIS!

Oel ngati kameie, ma tsmukan.

The only thing that make me feel even more disgusted than this is to stay with someone only because he/she has a lot of money or belongings. These two things are everything but love.
As Stanley said, to Love means to care for someone because he/she is what he/she is, and nothing less. To truly love someone, you must See him/her.

[Fkeu'itan]

The only thing that make me feel even more disgusted than this is to stay with someone only because he/she has a lot of money or belongings. These two things are everything but love.
As Stanley said, to Love means to care for someone because he/she is what he/she is, and nothing less. To truly love someone, you must See him/her.

^This again!

I think that being in a relationship solely for the material posessions is just so sad.

[rapunzel77]

Originally Posted by Tudhalyas

THIS!

Oel ngati kameie, ma tsmukan.

The only thing that make me feel even more disgusted than this is to stay with someone only because he/she has a lot of money or belongings. These two things are everything but love.
As Stanley said, to Love means to care for someone because he/she is what he/she is, and nothing less. To truly love someone, you must See him/her.

Exactly. Nothing else will keep a relationship together. It must be based on mutual trust and love. You must See each other . I think that all of you will be good partners. Now, to find your ladies . They will be gems because they will be trying to find you too.

[rapunzel77]

Originally Posted by Tudhalyas

Thank you for your kind words, ma tsmuké. We have to keep up our faith.

You're welcome Tudhalyas .

[Stanley_9875]

Originally Posted by rapunzel77

That would be the worst sort of relationship. Never settle for "pity." Personally, I don't see anything to pity with you . You are a very kind man with a good heart. It is very understandable that you would have that fear though. Some women tend to do that.



, this is truly sad but also very common too. It doesn't have to be this way.



Never give up trying but don't dwell on it to much either. I know that is difficult to say since I have been there before, being very lonely, etc. If the girl doesn't respect you for your principles, etc then she isn't worth it. The right one will come .




This is a very good dream. Never lose that dream.



I used to do the same thing. When I worked at the mall, I saw couples walking hand and hand and it hurt me so much because I wanted to find my soulmate too and I thought that he would never come.




There is nothing wrong with you . Always be yourself. She will love you for who you are inside and outside.

I wondered for years too. Hang in there . You will find her. You are 19. There are plenty of years ahead to find her. Do the best that you can now. All of you (Fkeu'itan, Human no More, Profoundheart, Stanley_9875, Fkeua Vrrtep, Apollo, etc) are a kind bunch of fellas. For those of you who don't have anyone yet, she is out there. You might have to search the world over to find her, but she is out there.

I hope this has helped too.[/QUOTE]

I am on the brink of crying right now (and I'm at work haha), your words have truly touched my heart and soul. I cannot thank you enough for your kind and encouraging words. Everyone part of this community is different is some way or other, but we also have a lot of the same simularities. Just knowing people who care as much as you all do is one of the greatest things in life. When I'm old and on my deathbed and I think back to all the amazing things that has happened in my life, this community and everyone a part of it will dwell in my mind. You have given me loads of encouragement and hope, and I'm certain you have given that to everyone else here in the same situation as us. I cannot thank you enough *hugs to everyone here*

[rapunzel77]

Originally Posted by Stanley_9875

I am on the brink of crying right now (and I'm at work haha), your words have truly touched my heart and soul. I cannot thank you enough for your kind and encouraging words. Everyone part of this community is different is some way or other, but we also have a lot of the same simularities. Just knowing people who care as much as you all do is one of the greatest things in life. When I'm old and on my deathbed and I think back to all the amazing things that has happened in my life, this community and everyone a part of it will dwell in my mind. You have given me loads of encouragement and hope, and I'm certain you have given that to everyone else here in the same situation as us. I cannot thank you enough *hugs to everyone here*

You're welcome Stanley. I meant every word I say. I have been on the AF board since January and have observed the posts, etc and contributing when possible. I have been pleasantly surprised by the level of thoughtfulness, insight, and maturity that is on here. You are all good men/women and I hope you will find your "Neytiri". It is more and more difficult to find someone with principles and maturity. Hang in there . When you find her, she will be a gem. Sometimes you have to dig deeper to find the truly valuable jewels.

[Human No More]

Originally Posted by Fkeu'itan

I also agree with your second point. It kills me too to see other people in the street, hell, even my own friends when they're with their partner and enjoying themselves. It's not envy or jealousy, it's just a longing. I don't know what it is that drives other people away either, it's a complete mystery to me. Admittedly, i'm not the thinnest, most muscular or best dressed of guys but maybe that's what many women (in my area at least) aim for these days. I just don't know.

Again, oel ngati kameie... You just described my feelings there perfectly

[rapunzel77]

'm happy to see the support that is on this board . We are all here for each other and it is great to find a good bunch of friends. I posted this on another thread but this song is very special to me and it encapsulates all the longings that everyone feels on here. The longing for a friend and soulmate. Someone who will always be there for you. Its called "Bridge over Troubled Water" by Simon and Garfunkel. I would cry hearing this song, wondering if I will ever find my soulmate. Here it is:

[ZenitYerkes]

Forrest Gump: "Bubba was my very best friend, and I even knew it was something you ain't find just turning around the corner"

See, people who just want you to go out and have a beer; you'll find tons.
People who likes to talk with you and you like to talk with, thousands.
People who feels like you and would love to share their thoughts with you, hundreds.
But people that really could understand you and you rely on them no matter what; few.

I am alone, yes. I haven't got a partner in my whole life nor a real best friend either. But y'know what? I stick up the people that makes me feel good and likes how I am; I'm honest with them and they bring me back the same honesty. I spend few time with them, though; but I believe that things will change if I keep looking for the people I want to find; all in all, life is about where you're headed to, the when and how you'll reach your target are just not worth worrying about.

If you feel lonely, try to get into some kind of group activity in your community; you'll never know if you don't try.

And don't worry, you won't find your ideal girlfriend just turning around the corner; but if you look for her you'll find her sooner or later.

[txen]

I want everyone to know there is hope. Many of the things said in this thread I could have written in my younger years. In my thirties I was sure that I would be alone my whole life, but now I married. Life is good.

Originally Posted by ZenitYerkes

Forrest Gump: "Bubba was my very best friend, and I even knew it was something you ain't find just turning around the corner"

See, people who just want you to go out and have a beer; you'll find tons.
People who likes to talk with you and you like to talk with, thousands.
People who feels like you and would love to share their thoughts with you, hundreds.
But people that really could understand you and you rely on them no matter what; few.

I am alone, yes. I haven't got a partner in my whole life nor a real best friend either. But y'know what? I stick up the people that makes me feel good and likes how I am; I'm honest with them and they bring me back the same honesty. I spend few time with them, though; but I believe that things will change if I keep looking for the people I want to find; all in all, life is about where you're headed to, the when and how you'll reach your target are just not worth worrying about.

If you feel lonely, try to get into some kind of group activity in your community; you'll never know if you don't try.

And don't worry, you won't find your ideal girlfriend just turning around the corner; but if you look for her you'll find her sooner or later.

This is some great advice. I used to sit at home and complain about being lonely. It's not like they are going to be coming to your door. You have to go out there and meet people to find someone.

[Wanderling]

I just wanted to add my love and support here, too, for everyone. Fkeu'itan, Stanley, Tudhalyas, Human No More, Zenit Yerkes, Apollo, all of you...there *are* good women out there who will truly see you for who you are, and will love you for it.

Rapunzel has already said much of what I wanted to say, and said it much more eloquently than I could have.

Originally Posted by rapunzel77

Exactly. Nothing else will keep a relationship together. It must be based on mutual trust and love. You must See each other . I think that all of you will be good partners. Now, to find your ladies . They will be gems because they will be trying to find you too.

I agree very much with this. My husband and I are working through a lot of trust issues, and I'm trying so hard to teach him to see me...some days are tough. I understand the loneliness, aytskuman, and I have a lot of fear that I rushed into this marriage because of feeling so lonely.

The right women are out there, and I think you will find them. Take your time building your relationships, and always be yourselves. Every one of you is a beautiful person, if your words here are any indication. As Rapunzel already said, those women will be trying to find you, too.

[Brandon Kellum]

I know exactly how you feel man, even worse though for me especially recently. I had my Neytiri, she was perfect in every way. She was my best friend for 6 years and we truly could See each other. Then I turned into a superficial prick and lost her.

[Gunny]

Dont stress over this man, "the best things come to those who wait" can apply to this situation also. Carry yourself with pride, be proud in who you are and be confident. Use this type of technique, talk to lots of women, not always in a way that you would like to date them but in a way that you would want to be their friend. Because in this way if nothing happens you atleast have another friend.

For me, I have had one "real" relationship and lots of stupid pointless ones of me just being with other dumb girls LOL. I miss the beginning from that old relationship, I miss the idea of the girlfriend and such. Though I do not miss the BS I put up with her or the endless money I spent on her. I have this perfect girl now that I am looking for, but in a way do not feel at my point in life am ready for her.

Like I said before, the best things come to those who wait is true. Live your life to the fullest and you will meet your dream girl when you are ready. Why rush when you could embark on an incredible journey through you way to find her?